Good morning my darlings and welcome to another weekly weigh in. again, slowly but surely I am nibbling away at the weight. It isn’t a massive weight loss I grant you and it isn’t a quick loss either. But you know, I’m kind of happy with that.
I know a part of me wants to drink a magic potion and wake up the next morning at my target healthy weight, or at least somewhere in that range as I don’t actually have a set number. But it just doesn’t work that way. Kind of a bummer and totally not what celeb photos make you think, but it is the reality.
And honestly, if I did have a massive dramatic weight loss I think I would go to my doctor’s office and camp out on his steps until they did tests on everyone of my internal organs. Because that is not right.
the way I figure it, it took me a while to put on all of this extra weigh, so it is going to take me a while to take it off again. As long as I keep working towards a healthier me, I am happy with it.
You may wonder why I feel the need to say that as after all I did have a loss this week and not a gain. I ran into a couple of people I hadn’t seen in a while. I should point out that they aren’t close friends. I know them, but we don’t really hang out, even before the mess that was 2020 occurred. They were just people I know well enough to be polite to in public. After the greetings and how have you beens we split up and a couple of women split off to go in a separate direction and they made a snide comment weight.
Now I should point out it might not have been directed at me. While I have been on an up and down rollercoaster, a couple of the people I was with added a bit more weight in the past year as normal systems changed. But meant for me or not it really got me quite angry. We were in a library so yelling after them was ill advised but I thought about it. Then the librarian looked at me and I let it go.
While I am mentally at a point where those kind of comments just anger me rather than tear me down, the comment really affected one of the other women. This led to a bit of a longer conversation outside than I planned, but it was well worth it.
So I just wanted to take a moment and remind all of you out there that your weight, gain, loss, neither or both are part of your health. And unless you share it with someone, then it is no one else’s business. If you are losing weight for yourself then it is your journey to go on. Take people with you if you want. In a sense these posts are me taking you all along with me and sharing some of the details i pick up that might help you out along your own journey. But don’t let another persons opinions about your path tear you down.
And conversely if you see someone who is working to lose weight, unless invited in to talk to them leave them alone. I’ve had people offer me comments I know that they thought were uplifting and positive but they aren’t always taken the way you intend them.
For example I was on a walk once towards the very beginning of my weight loss plan. I hadn’t lost anything and was still actually trying to convince my bod that the hill on the walking trail wouldn’t actually kill me. For the first month or so I had visions of a Jack and Jill sort of scenario with that hill. Minus Jack of course. However on the first day I managed to make it up to the top of the hill without feeling like I needed to just utterly collapse a sweet old woman on a bicycle stopped to talk to me.
“I just love to see obese people exercising, well done.”
First of all I don’t care how medically accurate the word obese is, you don’t say it to a total stranger. It is the sort of word that gets stuck in a persons head and circles around for far too long. Second what do you say to that?
“I love seeing old ladies on bicycles so i know their knees still work?”
Of course not. Besides I was too stunned to actually reply before she was off on her bike and waving merrily at me as she left. And I know she felt good about offering the comment. I know she thought she was being encouraging. That she did a good thing.
She made me cry.
When I was feeling good about getting up the hill.
So seriously, unless invited to comment, don’t. You’d think that would just be good manners, but apparently it isn’t. Juet recognize that it isn’t any of your business and let it go. And if you are the recipient of such comments, know that their comments, good of ill, have more to say about the person making them than they do about you.
Okay that was a bit more of a rant than I planned. Essentially it can be summed up as I am happy with my current slow and steady pace. I know, a lont way to go for a simple statement. It’s just that sort of morning.
Starting Weight: 246.0 lbs
Last week’s Weight: 214.6 lbs
This week’s Weight: 213.8 lbs
Lost this week: 0.8 lbs
Lost thus far: 32.2 lbs
So there we have it my darlings. I am happy to be making slow and steady progress and annoyed by insensitive comments of others. the annoyance will fade as it is only a minor irritation. I know I am doing what is right for my body and I am on a path to a healthier me. And in the end, that is what really matters.